If you’ve ever walked into a therapist’s office and spent part of the session educating them — about your identity, your community, your relationships, or what your life actually looks like — you already know what it feels like to not quite be met where you are.

That’s not what therapy is supposed to feel like.

I offer LGBTQ+ affirming therapy in Houston for people who are looking for more than tolerance. A space where your identity is part of the context, not the problem to be solved — where you can bring the full complexity of your life and have it understood from the inside.

What I bring

I’ve identified as a gay man for nearly 40 years, with a demisexual identity more recently, and have been clinically specializing in work with LGBTQ+ clients for over 30. That combination of lived experience and professional depth means your identity doesn’t need to be explained or defended here — it’s already part of the frame. My practice welcomes the full range of LGBTQ+ identities, including asexual, aromantic, intersex, and gender-diverse clients

Many of my clients are also part of communities or relationships that fall outside traditional norms, including consensual non-monogamy, polyamory, kink, and alternative spiritual practices. These aspects of your life are welcome in our work — as part of your experience, not as problems to address.

What people come in for

Most of the work I do is the work that brings anyone to therapy. Anxiety. Depression. Life transitions that have stopped making sense. Relationship and intimacy challenges. Self-esteem and self-criticism. Grief and loss. The quieter questions about direction, meaning, or fulfillment that don’t always have a clean diagnostic label.

What’s distinctive isn’t the work itself. It’s the population I do that work with — and the way your identity gets to be part of the context for the work rather than something you have to translate, defend, or carefully manage.

Who I work with

Many of the people I work with are thoughtful and introspective. They’re not necessarily in crisis — they’re people who want to understand themselves more clearly: the patterns that keep showing up, the ways they relate to others, the quiet questions about direction or meaning they haven’t had space to explore.

For LGBTQ+ individuals, these can also be shaped by experiences like:

• Navigating identity across different family or social contexts
• Internalized shame or messages you’ve worked hard to unlearn
• Experiences of stigma, marginalization, or not belonging
• Questions about authenticity in relationships, in community, or in yourself
• The particular complexity of building a life that the broader culture didn’t quite have a template for

These aren’t separate clinical specialties from the general work. They’re often the texture of how anxiety, depression, relationship challenges, or questions about direction actually show up for queer clients. We work with all of it together.

My approach

My approach draws on cognitive-behavioral, humanistic, existential, and psychodynamic traditions. Sessions are conversational, honest, and free of judgment. I’ll engage directly with what you bring, which means you can expect to be challenged as well as supported. The most meaningful change tends to happen when people feel both genuinely safe and genuinely stretched.

The work goes deeper than symptom management. Rather than focusing only on what’s wrong right now, we’ll also look at the underlying patterns — how you’ve come to see yourself, how past experiences still shape the present, and what a more grounded, integrated sense of self might actually feel like.

The goal isn’t just to feel better in the moment. It’s to develop a broader, more flexible way of understanding yourself and navigating your life.

Frequently asked questions

Will my sexuality, gender, or romantic identity be judged?
No. I recognize a broad range of sexual, gender, and romantic identities as valid and worthy of respect.

Do I have to bring sexuality, gender, or romantic orientaion into therapy?
Not at all. Sexuality, gender identity, and romantic orientation can be incorporated as simply the context of your lived experience. The key point is that you don’t have to hide or be cautious about any aspect of your identity. Many of my clients come in for general concerns, and identity is simply context for the work rather than the focus.

Do you work with intersex clients?
Yes. I have clinical experience working with intersex clients and understand the specific medical, identity, and family-of-origin issues that often shape intersex experience.

Do you work with asexual and aromantic clients?
Yes. I see asexuality and aromanticism as valid ways of being, and I’m familiar with the specific complexities — including the challenges of building relationships and identity in a culture that often presumes everyone wants what they don’t.

Are you available outside Houston?
Yes. I offer telehealth sessions throughout Texas